Communication - The Key for A Pleasant and Safe Hookup

 For many young people, college is a place for real fun. You just get rid of your childhood reputation, your parents and your exhausted teenage life. You might find yourself being surrounded by many attractive people and you finally have your own space to vent your sexual desire and most important of all, you are allowed to.

Even though the past decades have shaped our way of thinking towards sexual life and intimate behavior, many youngsters still don't know what they are doing, because little experience do they have in this field. What is even more depressing is we are still far away from the ultimate goal: A safe and beneficial sexual behavior.

Looking for an amazing dating feels like crossing the impossible mire, especially giving the college hookup culture. Such culture usually force students to engage in sexual activity and they consider it as a proud. You know, even when you have mutual consent, intimate sexual behavior can also feel like a transaction. The main problem lies in the unclarification of the word "hookup". It's defined by the person who says it. It can be anything from a kiss to sexual behavior. Hookup partner can also be anyone from a stranger to an acquaintance. Therefore, if you don't want to be misled by hookup culture, communication is the key.

The frist step is to learn how to communicate with your partner about your needs. This can ensures your satisfactory and in return to make your partner feel comfortable. Therefore, you need consent before doing anything and your consent as well. No matter how many adult dating partners you may have in your life, communication is always the key skill.

Start with being honest with yourself. Think about what you want and what makes you feel comfortable. Such process can be done in your mind, or you can write it down on a paper if it helps you think. For example, a threesome. Have you ever tried a threesome? If not, do you want to try? Maybe might be a yes, but No is for certain. If you don't want to try, don't be wavered by your partner. 

After you are clear with yourself, the next step is to make it clear with your hookup partner. You might find your partner in different places, online dating apps, bars, night clubs, etc. Where ever you met each other, now since you decide to hookup, it's time to bring it to the table and talk about it. Make sure you are clear with each other's boundaries. It's not as hard as you think to say it out loud. Once you make the first move, it would be a lot easier for the rest.